...a story of my own.

My middle child was born with allergies, quite literally a couple of patches of eczema under each leg on the day she arrived.  The midwife dismissed them, as did the doctor, but she was an excessively unhappy baby and over time the patches grew and began to cover her entire body until it was obvious she had severe atopic dermatitis.

The creams only seemed to make things worse.  Her allergies increased, spreading to asthma, hayfever, severe food and drug reactions.  Every day of her life she was driven crazy with the itching; I vividly recall lying her down on her towel after a bath when she was around 18 months old; she was scratching her legs, crying with frustration, and, with a look of desperation no baby should ever know anything about, holding her arms out and begging, 'help me'.

And I did.  I read and researched, took her to specialists, made my own creams and ointments, tried a thousand others, changed her diet, her bedding, her toys. Stopped wearing perfume, used homemade cleaning products, the least offensive washing powders. Picked my way through the complicated maze of sensitivities and true allergies; every day something else, something new.

Eventually things changed for the better.  The itching lessened, the patches shrunk, the unhappy baby grew into a joy-filled pre-schooler.  Years of dedication and educating myself on her particular allergies and their effect on her particular body had made a genuine difference.  How much of one, I'll never quite know - but I do know that when people saw how well she was doing and told me how lucky I was, I became angry.  I knew how hard we had worked and how quickly things worsened again when we dropped our guard.  They still do.  So luck, schmuck.

Most of all, I learned that my actions could make someone's life better.  That making mistakes was part of the process and just meant I needed to try again. That I could make use of experts without having my actions dictated to by them.  That I could trust my own understanding, and rely on my own persistence.

And, of course, that I had been blessed with a daughter who was one of the very best.

(Submitted by Megan Young: www.thescentofwater.typepad.com)
Ashbee
2/20/2010 05:00:37 pm

That look on your daughter's face must have broken your heart! My son had excema as a baby and I felt a complete failure. Thankfully, he grew out of it suddenly but it was an unhappy time for both of us.

This is a lovely website and I look forward to visiting it again and again...well done for making it real!

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Marcie
2/20/2010 07:32:15 pm

Congratulations on setting this up Megan, I wish you every success with it

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2/21/2010 03:30:15 am

How sad you must have been for your suffering baby. I'm so glad you were able to improve things for her. Thank goodness she had such a determined mother. I hope she has outgrown her problems now.

Thank you for setting up this amazing site!

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2/21/2010 04:21:45 am

I can't believe you set all this up in a weekend - I am cheering you just for this! Such a sad/beautiful/happy story about your daughter. Thank you for sharing it.

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2/21/2010 11:45:49 pm

Yay you. Then. Now.

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